Okay, full disclosure…I’ve always been a city chick at heart. In my twenties, I needed to be where the action was, and for me, that was New York City. The city was a place where all the crazy things that you had heard about were actually happening. I loved the energy, the people, and the possibilities, and I just knew I would never leave. But things change, and I’ve evolved. I’m beginning to wonder if it might be time to trade my inner-city bliss for some suburban peace.
The Inner City Perspective
The Lifestyle
What I love about New York City is the energy that you literally feel pulsating in the streets. I’ve lived in other places, and there is nothing like it. So many different lives are converging in one place. There are really no limits to what you can get into from a cultural, professional, or social perspective.
Apartment Life
Another reason that I enjoy the city is the sense of community you get there, especially if you live in an apartment building.
When you live in the city, your apartment building becomes a sort of retreat from the fast pace of city life. I’ve known some of my neighbors for years, and no matter how crazy things get on the outside, we meet in the lobby to share stories and a collective sigh of relief.
As a single girl, it’s really nice to know that there is always someone around to grab dinner or see a show with. Honestly, it can make you feel a little less lonely in the grand scheme of things.
The Proximity Principle
In the inner city, you also tend to feel like you are living in the center of everything. Not that you necessarily want to be out and about all the time, but just knowing that you have the option to get into something new and exciting is everything.
The Bad
The culture, the pace, and the fun, I loved it all. Until I didn’t. After living in NYC for many years, I began to find the pace draining, and I wondered if it was even worth it anymore. Confronting crime, noise, traffic, and the neverending crush of people daily can be overwhelming.
Going anywhere at all can turn into a very big deal as well. Thinking about a quick run to Target to pick up some essentials? Great, as long as you don’t mind fighting through traffic, people, and parking. And once you arrive good luck with the limited inventory. Even grocery shopping is like planning a field trip. Welcome to the inner city grind.
The Suburban Perspective
Ahhh the tranquility that comes with suburban life. Is the allure strong enough to bring this city girl back home? I grew up in the suburbs, and I took much of it for granted. Having an adventurous spirit, I felt stymied in the suburbs. Nonetheless, I did my time, and when the opportunity came to leave, I was out.
I’ve since changed my mind. The suburbs have way more going for them than I realized. They give you the space to breathe and a welcome respite from the stressors of your day. Now that I’m older, I can truly appreciate this lifestyle.
The Bad
Can a single girl truly make it in the suburbs? The land of married couples and two-car garages? Does she lose her edge, and resign herself to nights of Netflix alone? The jury is out on that one. I secretly fear being bored over time by suburban life. I would love to figure this all out before actually taking the leap.
Finding A Happy Medium
So what is the happy medium? Is it a suburb super close to a major city? Is it finding your partner first, and then dragging them out to the suburbs with you? I’m not sure. I love the idea of it, but I may need a trial run before I commit.
At the present time, I am perched on the edge of the diving board, and ready to dive into the suburban pool. The idea of the suburban unknown is a little daunting though. Is this a phase I’m going through? Only time will tell. Can I do it? They always say wherever you go, there you are, so if that holds true I think I can take the leap.
I’d love to hear from those who have already done it!
Stay tuned…
If you have some time, check out my previous post “Meet Me Where I Am” https://herpicketfence.com/meet-me-where-i-am/
❤ Stephanie
